1. The truth about relativity
Relativity helps us make decisions in life. But it can also make us downright miserable. Why? Because jealousy and envy spring from comparing our lot in life with that of others.
It was for good reason, after all, that the Ten Comandments admonished, “Neither shall you desire your neighbor’s house nor field, or male or female slave, or donkey or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” This might just be the toughest commandment to follow, considering that by our very nature we are wired to compare.
(Level of salary doesn’t relate to our happiness. We find satisfaction is dependent on relative salary)
(Level of salary doesn’t relate to our happiness. We find satisfaction is dependent on relative salary)
Can we do anything about this problem?
The good news is that we can sometimes control the “circles” around us, moving toward smaller circles that boost our relative happiness. (If we are thinking of buying a new car, we can focus on the models that we can afford)
We can also change our focus from narrow to broad. (2 errands to run today: buying a new pen and buying a suit. At an office supply store, you see a nice pen for $25. But it’s on sale for $18 at another store 15 min away. Do you decide to take the trip to save $7? Most people faced with this dilemma say that would take the trip to save $7. Then you’re shopping for your suit. You find a luxurious gray pinstripe suit for $455 and decide to buy it before someone whispers in your ear that exact suit cost $448 at another store 15 min away. Most people in this case wouldn’t bother travelling to save $7!)
This is the problem of relativity – we look at our decisions in a relative way and compare them locally to the available alternative. We compare the relative advantage of a cheap pen with expensive one, and this contrast makes it obvious we should spend extra time to save up $7. The relative advantage of cheaper suit is very small, so we spend the extra $7. Think of whether you can spend that marginal amount of money spent on somewhere else (perhaps spending on a book?).
This is the problem of relativity – we look at our decisions in a relative way and compare them locally to the available alternative. We compare the relative advantage of a cheap pen with expensive one, and this contrast makes it obvious we should spend extra time to save up $7. The relative advantage of cheaper suit is very small, so we spend the extra $7. Think of whether you can spend that marginal amount of money spent on somewhere else (perhaps spending on a book?).